Growing up, our parents and siblings meant the world to us. They are our whole universe.
OK, for some, they never really knew their parents since both are busy working their butts off for their careers.
Just substitute grandparents, maids, or iPads (I'm reaching for my Kleenex) for parents if you must...
Then once we started school, we discover friends!
They now meant more to us than our parents. Especially during our teenage years of trying to establish our own identity...
As we move through different schools and into adulthood, we just swap one set of friends for another. Surprise, surprise! We now spend more time with colleagues (who are not our friends) than friends outside of work!?
We say parents are important, but what do we do in practice? We spend our Christmas and New Year eve partying with friends and colleagues...
Lucky there are no Corporate Chinese New Year eve dinners or else who will spend time with family on CNY eve? Aren't you glad "Lor Hei" dinner does not clash with anything else?
Being accepted by the Group or Herd is paramount. Or so you thought.
That's until you met her (and/or him. Hey! What goes on behind closed doors I don't care).
Now she is everything.
No one else matters. Even parents. But you don't say it out loud of course!
You dare now to disappoint the world just because of her.
Friends "jio" you out you not free. Mom asks you back for CNY you say you are taking a vacation with her.
You even willing to tie the "knot" together. What is personal freedom?
Then a child comes along...
And your whole universe has a new alignment.
Now that child matters more.
And you are willing to do whatever it takes to make that child's future a brighter one.
Your career becomes back in view. You want to provide your child the best money can buy, even if it meant you won't have time seeing your child grow...
You tell yourself nothing else matters...
P.S. This love story is just a metaphor. If you had 10 or more years worth of investment and/or trading journey, see if it rang a bell?
Works better if your journey now include more than one asset class other than equities.
Even if you are a one asset class investor as in equities only, I'll be very surprised if your "parents and siblings" still matter the most?